Falling in love is something that should be savored, not rushed. But far too many of us are in a hurry to secure a partner, sometimes to the detriment of the relationships we build with each other. Below, therapists around the country offer seven telltale signs that you need to slow down and let things evolve a little more organically. What does that mean? If you get angry or hurt by their text etiquette, that should be a conversation you have.
What Is Slow Dating and Should You Be Doing It?
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COVID has impacted all aspects of modern life, especially relationships. Lockdown and other restrictions have meant that mixing, mingling, and in some cases, even meeting up with new people is more difficult. The result is an Austenesque approach to finding love; penning long letters read: texts from afar before heading on walking dates together. In other words, a new dating trend has emerged: slow dating. Slow dating means a person spends more time getting to know a potential partner and works to create a deep connection before taking things to the next level.
Dating Over 50: Going Slow Instead Of With The Flow
I am a master of dating too quickly. My last ex and I became exclusive on our second date. Come to think of it, I did the same thing with the boyfriend before that. Were those happy, healthy relationships?
Nevertheless, slowing things down has helped me in building relationships with more shared values and deeper emotional connections. It has led to easier ways of managing conflict and less drama caused by mismatched expectations, understandings and values. I think whether or not you want to take a slow approach depends very much on what you are looking for in your next partner. Slow means making sure that you have time between dates to really check in with your body about how you are relating to the other person. It lets you think about whether you have compatible needs and desires in terms of your connection with each other.